Our Reality must be based IN Reality. OUR Physical World, Real Life + Truth.
Reality:
1. the state of things as they actually exist, as opposed to an idealistic or notional idea of them.: "he refuses to face reality" "Laura was losing touch with reality". synonyms: the real world, real life, actuality, truth, physical existence, corporeality, substantiality, materiality
antonyms: fantasy
2. the state or quality of having existence or substance.: "youth, when death has no reality".
Each of us Requires a foothold on the planet to prevent us from getting sucked off course, into the atmosphere. This is why the first step of healing is finding your breath; our existence on the planet begins with our first; and ends with our last. Society places great importance on these Dates as pinpoints to agree on, so other things fall in place without thought. Ex: “How old are you?” Was this even a question before calendars? Before competition? When did we start caring and why? (google does not have good answers to my questions just fighting scientists)
We are meant to follow our breath, building a relationship with our most basic and powerful tool. When we treat our breath as a companion and guide during each moment of our journey, from first to last; we are open to comprehending the Power within each of us.
Ms. Oprah Winfrey also brought me the knowledge; we’re each born with a handful of cries! It was a WHILE ago and I’m going from memory, but Hungry, Shitty, Hurt, Bored aaaannd… let’s say, Needy? serve my purpose of not getting lost in the weeds and mud of child development + give me something to work with. Good enough.
Babies show up with Firmware to communicate with us <3 IF you’re able to put in the work, IF you’re able to take the Time to Learn what babies are trying to teach US upon their Arrival. I also learned those little freshies don’t try forever. If you’re unable to interpret their basic pre-installed option, babies Know to adjust. We are Hardwired to calibrate our Output when we don’t Receive a Response we were Aiming for - in line with our last Action. Baby cries; you don’t listen, they adapt their cry until they get a response, or sometimes they stop altogether. A baby will Stop crying if they have been ignored. Babies learn not to cry for help in orphanages and abusive homes. They’re not stupid, they’re wired to survive and calling out for help amongst danger can bring the wrong attention.
We do the Maths. We calculate the risk-reward of any situation based on the variables. Our minds constantly take in excessive information to be sorted and filed for later use. Our knowledge tells us what to do in a split second, our intellect lets us plot and plan. Our Vagus Nerve can inform which we have access to and when. If we’re not aware of and in control of the Filters, Lenses and Blocks that triage our Reality, misalignment has space to grow in the positive or negative gaps in understanding created. Those gaps can also impact the variables you’re capable of seeing or comprehending.
Our ability to comprehend the variables has become OUR issue; we are unable to grasp OUR shared Reality. I didn’t read much other than the article I linked yesterday, with a quick dip into the book’s website and the UTOK (Unified Theory of Knowledge) main page. I needed an anchor in reality to continue my mission + I need my Blocks to stay focused. I popped up to check my course. Confirm I’m not way out to lunch, or camped out in the weeds and mud others have left behind for clearer waters. However as excited as I am to eventually deep dive into their research and findings, I want to maintain my bubble. I’m curious to see what else pops into my head, free from the concern of regurgitating their work. But I needed a reality check, a little test of my bubble to ensure my math checks out - So Far.
I believe the doctors identified an “Enlightenment Gap” They also identified dark and light gaps I think? Do those line up with my dark and light gaps? The spaces we create with purpose or accidentally, to help us get through to the next moment we’re seeking. Somewhere between the pages I clicked through, one of the 4 professionals mentioned Amnesia! Maybe they have words for the 50 First Dates feeling I’ve started recognizing. I don’t have a clue what they said. However, for me, it has been rising to the top as one of the Keys. Harnessing our natural ability to Focus on what Matters + Ignoring Everything that's not our Own Business. Our mind naturally clears away the clutter, but we have to let it.
So many knots and sticks in the sand come to mind, a few I’m still avoiding talking about and others that drive me NUTS. “The Customer is Always Right” Jebus that one F’ed a LOT of shit up. "The customer is always right, in matters of taste," - Harry Selfridge. Leave it to Western society to take “Let people buy and enjoy what they want because they know themselves” and harness it as “I’m the customer and I should be able to tell you how to run your business”
It’s no damn wonder we’re all running around like a bunch of Asshole Children/Teenagers shouting we have THE Answer. Our lives are a neverending feed of mixed messages and signals to be misinterpreted. Once we have a grip on what TF is happening around us; we’re supposed to share that information! We’re designed to bring what we gain back to our circle. Back to our Tribe, or family or friends so we All know. “Sharing is Caring” + “Knowledge is Power”. We became a society when we started helping eachother heal from injuries. Having an Animal take care of another animal created Humanity. Sharing resources to feed and shelter another, rather than leaving them behind to die and ensure our own survival IS what being human is. That’s the pin in our timeline the nice woman from a Google search gone by told me.
We are designed to be our own authority. We are each a Supercomputer celestially placed on the planet to Live. How we live is meant to be determined by ourselves, as individuals. However, that’s a tricky freaking proposition, especially tens of thousands of years ago. We are animals. We have basic instincts. Our Need for survival will Always win. Like it or not. Therefore, as long as people are Fighting to Survive, We will never Thrive. Our brains are capable of some Wild shit, that is part of the problem. We’ve spent so much time and energy over the past few millennia trying to keep eachother in line to prevent problems, we’ve become one big Problem.
The internet has turned us into a collective Codependent Teenager unable to leave for College. All our shits packed and we’re ready to Start classes; however, we spent our Senior year so stressed over everyone else’s Plans - we forgot to bother filling out applications; nevermind the essays! That’s how far behind we are. That’s how far we are from the ability to Trust Ourselves + Eachother to stick to the whole “Society” plan we’ve ended up with. (Some of us are eating crayons in grade school)
I only see us as a big stupid teenager because that’s what my mind can comprehend. The analogy is too perfect and writes itself for me because it’s a feeling I understand and a Nightmare I relived for years. Others might see us as useless ants, or Aunts ;p while others see us as THE ruler of a planet or cosmic space dust. We’re meant to have access to Everything + Self Control to keep us from getting lost along the way. Self Control; another crux. Another misunderstood and misinterpreted requirement of development. Words pulled together and smashed apart by the myriad of Systems + Institutions WE invented to curate some order and safety.
Curate:
a member of the clergy engaged as assistant to a vicar, rector, or parish priest.: "he never resided there, leaving his clerical duties to his curate"
select, organize, and look after the items in (a collection or exhibition).: "both exhibitions are curated by the Centre's director".
Absurd how prevalent and problematic religion is; always getting in the way, showing us where we Keep going wrong. This is one of the big R words I’ve been avoiding. I think the book/site from yesterday, and plenty of other sources “over the course of time” agree we need to do something about religion.
I’ve personally been tackling this beast for as long as I can remember, my cross to bear since I was conceived a bastard child of two roman catholics. I still remember how hard the pew felt as the rhythmic words of the priest washed over my little blonde head; condemning my soul to an eternity in hell. I sat pinned in place under my sin while others went to snack on Jesus. I’m not sure why this is the memory that sticks out. I’m guessing the catholic school I attended for kindergarten was a little less fire and brimstone?
My Mom’s open discussions around Spirituality and her own conflicted beliefs saved me from fearing for my soul too much, thank fuck. I also just didn’t Get it. Being punished for being born never made sense to me. It still doesn’t. Valuing Each + Every Human that Arrives on our Planet as Equal is my religion. Using that scope and framework allows you to understand my context as a person and the goals of my actions. By aligning my Brain, Heart + Guts with babies I found clarity and ease I’ve always prayed for. I’ve never been able to see black and white.
Okay fuck, here’s the other R word. race. Ugh. Another tricky topic; Happy Monday!! I’m gonna pull the bandaid real quick, move on and circle back another day. Racism is a product the most basic, non-updated piece of firmware we ship with. I believe 3 months in we start seeing colours? Like right after the 4th trimester (english is so stupid because it’s not keeping up) Once we’re fully cooked and settled on the planet we’re not designed to see in black and white anymore. We see and hopefully, learn to appreciate the full spectrum of greys before colours are added. Then learn the full spectrum of all the colours. If you are concerned with black and white you need to find some serious help and get that shit Fixed. That’s a Huge Bug too close to your Hardware to function adequately.
So, clarity because of the babies. Life has always been a mess of shades of grey. (HA!) My mind was a tornado of worry and chaos constantly bouncing from siloed and conflicted school of thought to a different siloed and conflicted school of thought. Until I built my own; or more accurately acknowledged and understood my mission all along. My job is to figure out the world for myself so that I can function in it. I needed to be my own authority to find my function, my passion, my Voice. I was unable to stop questioning myself, disregarding my needs + misinterpreting the alarms and symptoms I’d been ignoring to please people; without being selfish or an Asshole. (We’re all assholes sometimes, the goal is to grow past operating in the world as one)
Babies arrive perfect; no matter the form. Aligning my values and heart to protect the innocence we are gifted makes every other decision easy. Human life comes first, everything else needs to fall in line. Any issues or problems you have with a freshie are for you to take home and think about alone, silently; then seek the guidance of someone you trust to learn and DO BETTER.
When I found my breath, when I harnessed its power to guide and inform; life made sense; maybe for the first time. I was taught during a stress support group that our Vagus Nerve (pronounced Vegas-save yourself the embarrassment I enjoyed) can be used like an off switch during panic. Breathing exercises and meditation are the cornerstone of mental health because those are the tools we’re being kept from, and everything we need to start clearing our path towards freedom.
Systems + Institutions are designed to keep us on the straight and narrow, I argue Humanity is not meant to be kept anywhere. We are meant to take care of eachother + share knowledge. We’re a bunch of animals running around playing made-up games; anything people designed to limit or interfere with our growth is of no value to me personally. I do value the religion of others; IF they value the religion of others. Our world is not a two-way street, it's a complex mess of multilane highways. I’ve often heard “stay in your own lane” used to tell someone to back off. Google reminds me it’s a call “to mind your own business” or “stick with what you know and are good at.” We need to live by that and let others live by it.
We are not meant to ALL get along; WE are meant to stay ALIVE and out of eachothers way so we can each complete our mission, and find our way home. We need to rebuild a shared reality, IRL; by agreeing to disagree again. Knowledge and Appreciation of Breath bestows a Powerful Tool of Guidance. Comprehension of your Alarms + Symptoms will dictate which Opportunities for growth you acknowledge, and how prepared you are for Change. None of that can be achieved if we all keep standing around yelling at eachother for DOING it WRONG! I believe we have a big old learning curve ahead of us if we’re going to start facing the reality of our existence together, but separately - again.
We are not meant to be connected to each + every person on the planet, just the ones who keep heading in our right direction, provide bumpers and share enough reality to understand what the fuck you’re on about this time - until you figure it out.
Cooperation,
Chelsey Laraine
-xo
PS: This essay ran too long, I put a pin in it and requested proofreading help. This popped into my news feed tonight.
I do not care how or where you find your brilliance, that's none of my business. I cried tears of joy, seeing these young women change history and they discuss their discovery as a cute ‘lil story early in what they know, will be a fulfilling life; they prove we are all incredible and that our environment dictates the success of our mutual goals. Their school is manufacturing Keychains of Knowledge and is receiving pushback because of broken Assholes?! The ones eating crayons…still. We need to appreciate all our gifts, and each Human equally - or we’re Fucked.
